Un, Deux, Trois

Would you rather have one cupcake or two? I'm sure there are über healthy people out there who would answer that question with "None, actually" and that's fine, it just means that you're a wet blanket and you don't know how to indulge in the beauty of life. So, would you rather have one person in bed with you, or two? Okay, maybe that's a bad example because I will ALWAYS want two cupcakes and I won't always want to have a threesome, but they are absolutely incredible every now and then. I've been in threesomes with two other women, with two other men, and with both a man and another woman. The latter is by far my favourite because you get the best of both worlds, but all kind of combinations are a good time. People knock threesomes because of the casual aspect of it. But that hasn't always been my experience. I have two threesome stories to share with you guys, and you be the judge of which one sounds better.

The first one was about a year ago. I met this woman who was a bit older than me, and she and her boyfriend had an interesting rule: as long as he approved of the person, she was allowed to sleep with them. So she and I started sleeping together, but it was pretty sporadic, so I never thought she would want me to meet her boyfriend. Then, one day out of the blue, she said he wanted to take us out to dinner. Note: in the adult world of threeways, "taking someone out to dinner" is code for "Let's all go out to dinner and talk about the dirty things we're going to to do to each other when we get home." It had been a while since my last threesome so I said sure, why not. We all went out for sushi (which by the way is a great pre-sex meal because it isn't heavy and it feels cool and refreshing), had a few too many Sapporos, and went back to their house. It was the slowest, sweetest, most intimate threeway I've ever had. I wasn't prepared for that. Most of my threeways are throw me up against the way, do me hard kind of experiences. But this was just so... loving? We were all so attentive to each other's needs. Sometimes when you have a threesome with a couple, it's very clear that you're there for their entertainment. Which is totally fine, you usually are, but this was so different. It felt like there was so much love and energy flowing between the three of us that when we all finished we just lay in bed together and listened to music. There was no tension. No awkwardness. It was very soothing. Then again, that couple was very into the tantric chemistry that exists between people, so it was mostly the vibe I was getting from them as a couple and their dynamic that set the mood. Still, a great experience.

The second story I have for you guys was a little more recent. One of my closest friends and her boyfriend have been together for four years now. They are the happiest, healthiest relationship I know of, and that includes an active sex life. Having a threeway was a bit of a bucket list for them, and since there's no time like college, they asked me if I would be their third person. They actually asked me about a year ago and I wasn't sure how I felt about it-- they approached me on a casual Tuesday and it felt a little too premeditated, I suppose. I didn't mind planning out the threeway with the other couple because I'd already slept with the woman, so it felt like a date more than anything. But making plans to have sex with your good friend and her boyfriend, without ever having hooked up with them before, felt a little tense. So I said no and we dropped it. Then one night we all went out, got drunk, came home, ordered food, sat in the hot tub, and decided to do it. It was a spur of the moment decision, and in that moment it just felt right. Well. Since it was a bucket list thing for them they definitely wanted it to be a little freaky. And freaky it got. I mean not wild, out of control, but there was a lot of dirty talk and spanking and it was one of the best nights I ever had during college. There were absolutely no inhibitions in the room. We were all there to have a good time, and since there was no pressure we just let loose. After we all finished I went back downstairs and slept elsewhere, but the next morning we got breakfast and if anything, it brought our friendship closer.

Threeways aren't for everyone. I'll probably write a how-to post later on, but this was just about sharing my experiences. Again, they are very particular to the people I was with and I'm not saying these two stories are the end all be all when it comes to a ménage à trois. But were they amazing? Abso-freaking-lutely.

xx,

Gemma